Once upon a time, a long time ago, I believed in complicated dreams.
Dreams large enough to fill a nation and to encompass the world.
Now, approaching 40, I have a new and novel strategy.
You see, I’ve many unfulfilled dreams and this both makes me empowered and sad at the same time.
My new strategy involves taking all my dreams and simplifying them.
This means I’m busy boiling them down to the necessary steps that make up each dream.
And maybe, in the next 40 years, I’ll live all of them, with room for more.
Is simplifying dreams a better strategy than the one you’re using now?
How can simplifying your dreams make them more attainable?
Researching into different religions and cultures, makes it possible to draw parallels between each.
One parallel is the abundance of Creation Stories.
These are stories that hold a people together.
Christians know they’re Christian, because of the story of Adam and Eve. The Romans knew they were Roman because of the story of the twins being suckled by a wolf, and other peoples are not much different.
Now, I’d like to make this a little more personal.
Everyone has an individual Creation Story. This tells us who we are in society and the larger world. It often has information like who our parents are, where we grew up, and our history, told through our eyes.
This creates a filter of how we interpret everything in life.
So, by acknowledging our own Creation Story and its influence, and by understanding how it impacts upon our decisions and perception, we can set ourselves free.
Don’t ignore it, don’t deny it. Embrace it because it is important and unique…
But don’t let it shut down the imagination and the ability to write more stories.
This is my challenge also.
Everyone is busy signing up to their Resolutions, but how they are achieved is sometimes beyond us. This is because everything changes.
For those of us who freak out about change, coping is really quite simple.
It’s taken me roughly four decades to work this out, but change is cyclical and there will always be something constant… something that doesn’t change.
If I focus on ensuring I’m organised for the things that don’t change, then I’m halfway to coping with the overall change.
Getting finances sorted is a worthwhile Resolution. This one underpins much of what can be achieved and what cannot.
- How finances work is a very easy example. Bills don’t arrive randomly. Utilities are usually billed every quarter, even though the food budget may change a little depending on season (although that can be brought to order easily too with some know how).
So, the idea is to work out how much the utilities cost for a year (if this amount cannot be calculated, I multiply the bill I do have four times to give me a rough cost) and then save towards that amount every three months.
So randomness is brought to its knees and now there’s more control in our hands. Change is curtailed and more manageable.
And there’s always the trick of getting your finances as well as the rest of life into a routine that takes some of the unpredictability out of life.
An old suggestion but a good one.
What change are you focusing on managing into the New Year?
This is a poem i wrote when my Granddad passed away. I’m sharing it with you today as a tribute to another death close to my heart.
Yesterday, my beloved dog, Milo, passed away, while i was at work.
R. I. P. love of my life. And thank you for gracing my life for the eleven years you were a part of it.
No one has known love until they’ve been loved by a dog.
I thought I was alone today
Looking into the blue,
Then I noticed a change
As the breeze gently blew
I looked around and felt something
I didn’t know what I sought
But realised then that I was wrong
As to me came a thought
It came to me gently as I stood there
It beckoned me to take note
And as I saw the clouds above
To me came new hope
Not quite a memory
Stirred in my mind
A glimpse of better times
That I thought I had left behind
Then I heard a voice
Gently in the breeze
“I am here with you forever
Now just let me stay please
I will stand by your side
And watch while you sleep
I will be there now
Even as for me you weep
And if you ever want a yarn
Or just to let me know
Light a candle and I’ll be there
And I’ll stay until you let me go.
Look for me beyond the clouds
Seek me in the sky
Search for me past the rainbow
And as the rain passes by
I will meet you there one day
I will wait until you see
That past where the night meets the sun
I am where I am meant to be.”
I wrote this the day after Grandad died…so on 21 October 2010.
A receipt for a banana, rice and a coffee.
Tonight. It was tonight. Tonight when i had the in laws over for dinner.
What to cook?
My sister was a fussy eater and they were really her in laws, not mine. Her little villa was too small to host the larger family we were meeting with. So i had invited everyone to my place.
And with a baby on the way, she had left me to do all the planning and catering.
My sister hated fruit, but i really thought the best desserts all used fruit in them. How to compromise?
These thoughts were running through my head as i stood in the large supermarket, staring at the endless shelves, trying to dream something up.
Suddenly i had it!
I had the compromise!
With more confidence than i felt, i strode to the aisle containing rice, and grabbed a bag. Then i marched to the fresh produce part of the store and picked up a solitary banana.
I’d make rice pudding and put a single banana into the recipe to keep both of us happy.
After paying for it, i stood outside the supermarket for a little bit.
My brother in law, my sister’s husband, rang to say he’d be late in picking me up.
I wandered back into the store.
I needed a coffee!
Whether it wears you down or polishes you up is up to you.
The above quote is by Cavett Robert.
This quote has been on my fridge door ever since I moved from Sydney to my home town. Recently, it has been giving me much comfort.
My last post was about giving yourself a voice.
Well. I did. And I roared. And the CEO of my company gave me a new job. It’s a steep learning curve…but so are all the best lessons in life.
So, I have a choice. I can stress over how much I don’t know. I can get angry with myself for taking the plunge into this unknown territory.
Or I can use this as a way of polishing myself up.
And I’ll let you into a little secret. Deep down, beyond the fear, is a true love for an honest challenge. I’m actually quite excited.
What fears and challenges are you facing?
What can you do to polish yourself up?