Often misunderstood as almost a weakness, forgiveness can set a person free.
For me, it’s difficult to forgive. And I’m not alone.
So let’s break it down.
There are two directions that can be taken when an injury occurs. These are revenge. I can hurt you back. Or forgiveness. I can understand that you are human too and I can love you instead.
Once I can forgive, I release myself from the cycle that holds me prisoner to the hurt. And I’m role modelling how I prefer to be treated. Maybe I can use the pain as an opportunity to lead others caught up in the web of pain, into a safer harbour and onto the path of healing.
Forgiveness does not allow the other person involved to get off lightly. If anything, it holds them even more accountable. To believe they have no conscience and to hold onto the belief they are a monster denies true justice. It excuses them for their crimes.
So I’m trying something a little different this time. I’m choosing to heal. I’m choosing to voice the truth of what happened that caused me harm, and I’m setting myself free.
This may take time. I may have to forgive repeatedly. For forgiveness is often a cycle.
But I’m walking this road, instead of denying it.
Will you walk it with me?