Simple forgiveness

There is much wrong with the world and a lot of conflict. Ukraine and Russia, Trump, and drones sighted above Europe. It all indicates that a lasting solution is required.

The best solution I can come up with, upon reflection, is simple forgiveness.

In the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, how to face death is with forgiveness. As a person dies, they often regret much in their life and feel guilt.

If a person is dying, focus on their positive attributes and forgive them.

If it is your own death, you are facing, focus on forgiving anyone who has wronged you.

But the most powerful and succinct way to forgive is the Fourfold Steps to Forgiveness. This is outlined in Desmond Tutu’s book on forgiving, written with his daughter.

After apartheid came to an end in South Africa, there was much hatred between the black and white peoples who called the country their home.

Desmond’s daughter had a member of her household murdered in the family home, where they both lived.

And so the fourfold path was born.

  1. Tell the story and context of the hurt.
  2. Tell why it hurts.
  3. Forgive
  4. Release or renew the relationship.

This means that the two parties can separate,  unburdened by the hurt. Or they can renew their relationship and move forward into a better future, with wisdom.

Forgiveness does not mean the person or party who caused the harm goes unpunished. It means that you believe that they have a conscience and it’s their conscience they need to appease. It’s a belief in the goodness of all creation.

Forgiveness is the key to transcending the hurt and conflict in the world. As individuals we can make a lasting difference, if Forgiveness is the path we choose to tread.

Letting Go

What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?

Much time has passed since I started Liz’s Everest, here, on WordPress. Before Covid was even a part of our shared history, I had this website.

Letting go, is making a conscious decision about what to hold onto. It’s a conscious decision to decide what to keep.

So the real question, is not what I am letting go, but what I am keeping. As writing has always been a big part of my life, assisting me in my personal growth, since a young child, I am keeping my writing habit. And therefore, this blog.

What else am I keeping?

I’m keeping my love of Nature, by gardening, and working on living in an ecosystem that supports Native animals and Native plants. And I’m keeping my relationships with friends and family, as these people enrich my life, and give me wise counsel, when I need some direction.

What am I letting go of?

Well, procrastination, for a start, so that I have more time to do my gardening and my writing. And so that I have more time to spend with my loved ones.

What are you consciously keeping?

What’s happening?

Hi Everyone,

I’ve received some comments asking what is happening on my blog.

Suddenly, there are stories translated into Tagalog, a Filipino language.

This is because I am learning Tagalog and using Liz’s Everest as a place to work out what words mean in this very easy language to learn.

It also means that my blog is accessible to more people. The internet is international.

Don’t worry. I’m still writing stories and posts in English. And I’m still developing my writing skills in my Mother tongue.

I’ve just always wanted to learn a second language and now I’m able to live this dream.

What dreams do you have?

Work Sounds

What do you listen to while you work?

My job is a hands job, not a head work career. This means that while I’m creating new plants or doing other labour, my mind is free to roam around the universe,  as it feels fit.

In order to tame and tether my curious mind, I listen to podcasts and audio books.

These audio bites, I download from my local educational radio station and from the library.

At the moment, due to my desire to write better content, I’m targeting memoirs and autobiographies by well known and published Writers. 

All sorts of content grab my attention on my radio station. I love this radio network as there is always something interesting to learn.

Who else loves radio?

Christmas

As Christmas nears, I bet you’ve been Christmas shopping.

Buying gifts at this time of year is a major part of life. And mostly it is expensive.

It also is an activity that leads to rampant consumerism… and I DON’T like seeing myself as a Consumer.

So a tip to all who are also rebelling against this label.

From a Podcast I recently listened to:

Buy something to wear.
Buy something to read.
And buy something functional.

Merry Christmas and I’ll write to you in the New Year.

Junkie

There’s a new twist on the word “Junkie.”

In many ways I am a Junkie. A Junk Junkie.

Crowding my home are little knick knacks, several pine cones, and some sentimental things to remind me of Nanna.

Oh, and did I mention I love op shops. I love trawling through, looking for little treasures that none but me find attractive.

Sounds like a Junk Junkie to me!!! Self diagnosed!!!

But today, I am proud of myself.

I actually walked into an op shop and out again with only one item stowed away in my shopping bag.

Maybe I’m beginning to join the mini revolution others have started. The swing away from clutter. The swing towards minimalisation and saving the planet by owning a few less pieces of junk, and freeing up some time and wealth for loved ones.

Are you an Op Shop tragic like me? Or are you swinging towards owning less?

Leave your answer in the comments section

Caring

Recently, I attended a workshop on how to cope when living within an emotionally unstable environment.

The take away lesson for me was this:

Be on the watch out for the Perfectionist.

When caring for yourself or someone else, it’s okay to be unable to fix the problems within the relationship.

People cannot be fixed.

It’s best to accept that you are doing your best, even when the situation isn’t working out.

But if you are seeking perfectionism, then you become a part of the problem.

Relationships are not perfect. They are always changing. Being a Perfectionist just puts you into a state of distress and weakens your ability to respond with love.

So next time I find myself seeking perfectionism, I’m pulling back and saying to myself:

“Good is good enough.”

Hillville fire

My Nanowrimo has hit a snag.

It’s not writer’s block or lack of discipline.

This morning, my family were relieved to go home. They were lucky they had a home. Over the past 48 hours, a spectacular effort was put in by the Firies of Australia. These are the true heroes of the whole event. Men and women who volunteer their services to be Fire Fighters when the bush fire season are upon us are amazing.

These brave people are not paid a cent for risking their lives in times of fire.

If you’d like to know more about the bush fire my family almost lost their house to, google Hillville Fire. It’s been all over the news.

As I write this, my Dad, also a volunteer firiey is sleeping. He is 78 and worked from 7am to 7pm yesterday with a tiny crew of 3 people, putting out fires.

Most of the volunteer Fire Fighters are over 50 years old.

I suspect more of my posts may be influenced by my experience of the Hillville Fire. There are so many aspects of this event that strike a chord with me.

But today, I’m so proud to be a part of a nation where we have such an effective volunteer force.

Thank you to the volunteer operated Rural Fire Service of New South Wales. You and your interstate colleagues saved my family’s ancestral home.

Thank you indeed.

Teeth

I’m sitting in a dental clinic’s waiting room. The Receptionists are friendly, but I’m nervous anyway.

My Dentist, who I first visited as a child and saw well into adulthood, has retired. Which means I require a new Dentist.

The first option did extra work on my teeth. I disliked her enthusiasm for drilling into what I thought was healthy tooth.

So now, I’m getting a second opinion. This Dentist came personally recommended by a Work Colleague.

The moral of the story?

If you’re unhappy with the Dentist you’re seeing… switch.

Teeth are important and expensive accessories to the human body.

Look after them.

Wingham soccer fields

This photo is of a flame tree standing proud next to the soccer fields of Wingham. I like the contrast of the red against the blue sky.

What do you think?