Before my trip to Japan, 3 years ago, I did an interview for a friend.
Revisiting the video earlier this year – my boss wanted to use it – I have realised how important the underlying message is.
And it’s a message that is timeless.
The message I was seeking to drive home, was that the only challenge that is real in life, is to be more loving.
Someone cuts you off in traffic?
Be more loving.
The computer crashes and you lose all your data?
Be more loving.
When things like this happen, loving yourself and others through the mess, is a way of showing your best.
Love beats a path forward, even when all seems lost.
So next time, when life doesn’t go my way, the response I am choosing is to use it as an opportunity to be more loving.
Will you follow me?
Often misunderstood as almost a weakness, forgiveness can set a person free.
For me, it’s difficult to forgive. And I’m not alone.
So let’s break it down.
There are two directions that can be taken when an injury occurs. These are revenge. I can hurt you back. Or forgiveness. I can understand that you are human too and I can love you instead.
Once I can forgive, I release myself from the cycle that holds me prisoner to the hurt. And I’m role modelling how I prefer to be treated. Maybe I can use the pain as an opportunity to lead others caught up in the web of pain, into a safer harbour and onto the path of healing.
Forgiveness does not allow the other person involved to get off lightly. If anything, it holds them even more accountable. To believe they have no conscience and to hold onto the belief they are a monster denies true justice. It excuses them for their crimes.
So I’m trying something a little different this time. I’m choosing to heal. I’m choosing to voice the truth of what happened that caused me harm, and I’m setting myself free.
This may take time. I may have to forgive repeatedly. For forgiveness is often a cycle.
But I’m walking this road, instead of denying it.
Will you walk it with me?
For those who have always known me, you will be well versed in my love for writing.
Currently, I have my first book being published.
Bartholomew, an Australian native bird known as a Tawny Frogmouth, follows the story of a young fledgling who strives to live his dream.
For pre orders, just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org